Lakshmi Chaudhry, Durga Ma as a battered wife: A giant step backward for womankind (via swaghavad-gita)
there was something that rubbed me wrong about that photoset but i couldn’t put it into words. she did.
Yes me too.
PRETTY SURE MY MUM IS TRYING TO HOOK ME UP WITH HER WORK COLLEAGUE’S DAUGHTER
she was like “you both are really similar and whenever my friend and i talk about you guys, we’re both talking about how you two should meet and how well you’d work together. so i invited them over for dinner at the end of this month”
okay this seriously sounds like a set up
is my mum setting me up for a date
admittedly it’d be in the house BUT STILL
and then my mum was like “she’s like you! she’s not interested in getting married and doesn’t like anyone”
i was doubtful, i mean, maybe she just doesn’t tell her mother those kind of deets yeah?
"no, her mother in facts encourages her to get a boyfriend! but she just says no"
seriously, my mum invited them over JUST SO HER FRIEND’S DAUGHTER AND I COULD MEET
IF THIS DOESN’T SOUND LIKE SOME COMEDY ROMANCE TO YOU
THEN YOU ARE LYING
i’m afraid of making choices
i’m afraid of making decisions, because what if it doesn’t turn out okay?
to me, a decision is concrete, and the idea of being able to change it is foreign
part of me gets really inspired whenever i read posts that urge me to better my life, to explore, to not worry about mundane things like exams that won’t matter in the grand scheme of things
but say if i do climb that mountain, say if i do kiss that person, say if i do profess my unconditional love, say if i do something that by definition is meant to be liberating
what if nothing happens
what if i am still as empty and scared and anxious as before
i can’t take that risk
an unpremeditated risk with unforeseeable outcomes that may or may not lead to further happiness
my anxiety builds and builds and builds until there’s a wall blocking me from the world, shielding me from considering any possibility that isn’t the now
but the truth is that i don’t actually care
i don’t actually care if i’m missing out on something incredible
although decision-making is the bane of my existence, i don’t wish to change it
self-improvement is a cool concept, and i indulge in it every so often, but in this case, i’m perfectly happy in my mediocrity
and i’m tired of that being a bad thing
One time I was masturbating in the shower and came so hard that I couldn’t keep in my scream but I knew my brother was in the bedroom next door and that he’d hear and know what I was doing so I quickly transitioned into singing the opening of the Lion King.
blk wmn are goddesses
To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.
I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.
And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?
So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.
Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-
6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.
6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.
A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?
They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.
Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.
If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.
But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.
And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?
That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.
You. The rapist’s comrade.
And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…
Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.
Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)
Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard.
teen wolf starts tomorrow
this means i will have to change to my teen wolf blawg!!!! fun times!!!!
alas exams are also forthcoming. what to do?!?! i’m going to watch teen wolf anyway why am i fighting this
i’m off!! see you sometime maybe?????
THANK YA VERILY
yeah i was really going for the absolutely simplistic theme. now all my blogs are the same theme!!
i’m already accidentally doing a few of them so yes!!! let’s be cool cats together!!!!!
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